Thursday May 5, 2016 #802
“Don’t be afraid of death; be afraid of an unlived life. You don’t have to live forever, you just have to live.”
Don’t shy away from adventures, new relationships, even dangers… when in pursuit of your best self. The only real risk is not acting, despite obstacles or challenges, when acting is necessary to move you or the people who count on your action towards worthy achievement. So while being prudent and conscious of challenges and dangers around you, don’t hesitate to dream, to act, to live. Are you living, truly living? Start today!
Tuesday May 3, 2016 #801
“There comes a day when you realise turning the page is the best feeling in the world, because you realise there’s so much more to the book than the page you were stuck on.”
You are never “stuck” with who you are, or your present circumstances. There is always room to change, to adapt, to grow, to start again. Don’t ever tell yourself, or let anyone else tell you, that you are done. You are never done. Human beings are always in a state of “becoming”, and it often simply takes turning the page of the book of your life to see the amazing possibilities for your life. Remember also, that this is true for joy and good circumstances as well. The pages keep turning and there is both more joy and more pain ahead. Keep the pages turning, faster when needed, and perhaps a little more slowly to allow yourself to reflect on the good things always happening to you and around you. But keep the pages turning.
Thursday April 28, 2016 #800
“When we’re plagued with self-doubt or a lack of motivation, we can breathe in the inspiration of others. Seek out the passion that other people have for their work, the compassion they bring for other people, the goodness in their hearts that inspires them to do their work. We don’t have to copy what they’re doing, but instead be inspired by their spirit.”
I find that surrounding myself with positive influences (people, experiences, what I choose to read, etc.) not only brings me more joy and happiness, but also leads to more energy and creativity, allowing me to find the courage and ingenuity to push through obstacles and achieve things for myself and people who count on me than I could ever have hoped to do otherwise.
I hope that JAM with Mike provides a bit of that for you, which drives me to write these every week. The writing in and of itself creates positive energy for me, so I would continue even without readers. But having over 1,000 people in my audience provides further inspiration and has kept me going year after year. I am astounded to realize that this is my 800th JAM and I thank you with all my heart for choosing to be a member of this community!
So many of you inspire me every day, and I hope that you’ll continue to enjoy JAMmin’ with me for years to come.
Tuesday April 26, 2016 #799
“You can change yourself and you can change the situation but you absolutely cannot change other people. Only they can do that.”
It is amazing to me how much time people waste and how much energy they expend in the futile attempt to change other people, and what they believe. Whether out of a kind heart or a misguided belief that others must believe as they do (about sports, politics, religion, or anything else), people are constantly trying to change other people. It’s a useless exercise. Unless someone is open to change, no clever argument or more dramatic persuasive techniques can force a real change. People might agree with you, but unless they really want to evolve their way of thinking, their agreement is just a ruse to get you to stop!
I am not saying we should not engage in meaningful debate or to stop expressing our views. I am saying we should not do this when it is unwanted, nor should we damn people for not believing the way we do. There are many valid opinions and belief systems and we will do well as individuals and as a society when we respect others’ ideas and beliefs and focus on being better humans ourselves, rather than trying to change others.
Thursday April 7, 2016 #798
“People are rivers, always ready to move from one state of being into another. It is not fair, to treat people as if they are finished beings. Everyone is always becoming and unbecoming.”
The one constant in this life is that nothing remains constant! If we are not always changing and adapting, we are likely comatose, psychotic, or dead. And this is true for everyone around us. There is nothing more tragic or destructive as someone who fights to accept change, evolving perceptions of morality, and is intolerant towards those who do. Intolerance breeds hate and bad actions.
Allow others to change and grow, and allow it in yourself as well. You will be happier and healthier for it!
Tuesday April 5, 2016 #797
“Following through is the only thing that separates dreamers from people that accomplish great things”.
Accomplishment comes by taking action, vs. simply dreaming of action. By all means, envision all the things you could accomplish with the right circumstances, and the right resources. And then actually do something about it! Create the circumstances you need by putting things in motion with your own effort, and begin marshaling necessary resources by using what you have, right now.
Thursday March 24, 2016 #796
“One reason we struggle with insecurity: we’re comparing our behind the scenes to everyone else’s highlight reel.”
It’s easy to get distracted, if not discouraged, by the successes and capabilities of others. Particularly with the advent of social media which allows people to pre-package the perfect image of themselves they wish to share with the world, it can easily appear that others have the life we only dream about. The reality though is far different. Behind these facades lie the same messiness we experience in our own lives. Rather than compare yourself, strive to give yourself a break and accept your humanness. Focus on making your own life better and richer with experiences and positive inputs and outputs, rather than worry about what others have or are doing.
Thursday February 25, 2016 #795
“Real love is always chaotic. You lose control; you lose perspective. You lose the ability to protect yourself. The greater the love, the greater the chaos. It’s a given and that’s the secret.”
If you find that your relationship is a bit chaotic and crazy, it’s probably a good thing! Great love is almost by definition chaotic. The passion that drives love brings out our most authentic selves – the amazing and the messy. And the constant for real love is letting go: surrendering yourself to the love and to your lover. It’s scary stuff. And it is awesome! Love deeply, love fully. Embrace the chaos!
Tuesday February 23, 2016 #794
“So long as you have courage and a sense of humor, it is never too late to start life afresh.”
As you reflect on your personal and professional life, it is highly likely that there is an element that is not where you want it to be. A relationship, a project, your job, or your health, or something else. Regardless of how bad something may seem, you have the ability to make a change, a fresh start. Right now. It does take courage to stop something that isn’t working, due to inertia and habit. It will take courage to say, “enough!”. But you can, and you must. Realize that whatever you’re facing, others have faced similar circumstances and successfully made a change. You’re not alone. And a bit of a sense of humor helps too, if we can laugh at our human frailty or what the universe throws at us.
Thursday February 18, 2016 #793
“Make it a habit to tell people thank you. To express your appreciation, sincerely and without the expectation of anything in return. Truly appreciate those around you, and you’ll soon find many others around you. Truly appreciate life, and you’ll find that you have more of it.”
Abundance breeds abundance. It is true in nature and in science. And it is true in our very human lives. While so many people around us and in media expend their energy on negatives, be part of a growing population who choose to live with gratitude, and express it in word and action. Live an abundant life and you’ll see more of that life building around you and positively impacting the people you love.
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