Tuesday April 11, 2017 #878
“Everyone must choose one of TWO PAINS: The pain of discipline or the pain of regret.”
Most if not all meaningful goals are challenging to achieve. There are skills to learn or master, obstacles to overcome, and constantly changing environmental factors to deal with. When we fail to achieve these goals, we usually have ourselves largely to blame either through lack of true desire or lack of discipline to deal with and overcome the challenges. Don’t live a life of regret for what could have been. Push yourself to have the discipline necessary to achieve the goals you truly desire to achieve. The pleasure of achievement will make today’s pain worthwhile.
Thursday April 6, 2017 #877
“Your mind will be like its habitual thoughts; for the soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts. Soak it then in such trains of thoughts as, for example: Where life is possible at all, a right life is possible.”
We are all ridiculously busy these days. But, in those moments between your busy activities, what do you think about? How do you spend that precious time with yourself or your loved ones? Too often, that time is spent in negative thoughts, with negative people, or in activities that are negative or unhealthy. This can be unintentional, just a reality of the inputs around us. Or sadly, we can often choose these experiences ourselves. To avoid this, we must be intentional and be ready to reach for a positive experience with a person or with ourselves.
How are you spending your few opportunities to refresh and rejuvenate yourself positively? With intention I hope. If not, make it your priority to find ways to fill today’s opportunities wisely and positively. You’ll be glad you did.
Tuesday April 4, 2017 #876
“The critical ingredient is getting off your butt and doing something. It’s as simple as that. A lot of people have ideas, but there are few who decide to do something about them now. Not tomorrow. Not next week. But today, the true entrepreneur is a doer, not a dreamer.”
There is something that you know you need to do. A project to start, or a project to finish; a change to make in your career, relationship, or way of living; a stand you need to make. Why aren’t you doing it? The likely culprits include self-doubt, societal pressure, fear of failure (or of success!), nay-sayers, and more. What to do? Act anyway. Despite the fears, despite the obstacles, despite the expected recriminations or potential failures. Do it today. Do it now. ACT. Be a doer, not a dreamer.
Thursday March 30, 2017 #875
“You don’t win an Olympic gold medal with a few weeks of intensive training. There’s no such thing as an overnight opera sensation. Great law firms or design companies don’t spring up overnight… Every great company, every great brand, and every great career has been built in exactly the same way: bit by bit, step by step, little by little.”
Patience. One of the most important capabilities needed for success.is the patience to allow our talents and opportunities to come together to create potential. Patience to create and develop relationships. Patience to learn tools and capabilities and time to put them into practice. Patience with ourselves as we make mistakes and learn from them. Patience with others as they play their roles in our lives to help and sometimes hinder our progress. The road may seem long and that is because it is. Have the patience to travel that road and enjoy the moments along the way. Bit by bit, step by step, little by little.
Tuesday March 28 2017 #874
“You can’t live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you.”
Too often people only do things for others when they feel they are getting something material out of their effort. If not, this selfishness can cause people to refrain from taking the effort to help others. But the best experience we can have is giving of ourselves with no thought of getting anything in return. We all have so much we can offer of ourselves: our time, our talents, our money, and our access to resources. Keep your senses open to opportunities to give generously. Selfless giving is the most beneficial thing you can do for others and for yourself. Have a perfect day today!
Thursday March 23, 2017 #873
“You will fail at some point in your life. Accept it. You will lose. You will embarrass yourself. You will suck at something. There is no doubt about it. … Never be discouraged. Never hold back. Give everything you’ve got. And when you fall throughout life — and maybe even tonight after a few too many glasses of champagne — fall forward.”
This is a message I have written about several times and it is a message worth repeating: You. Will. Fail. When you fail, you can’t let the failure define you or defeat you. Everyone fails. But not everyone succeeds. Success comes from failing forward. Certainly allowing yourself to feel the negative emotions that come with failure, but then quickly moving to positive action. Reflecting on what occurred, what could have been done differently, what resources you would have needed, what you must change about yourself, etc. And then take action! Learn new skills, develop new relationships and resources, try a different angle. If it is worth winning, failure is just another piece of the learning you need to be able to win eventually.
Tuesday March 21, 2017 #872
“The cyclone derives its powers from a calm center. So does a person.”
~Norman Vincent Peale
Today’s insanely busy life requires more than ever our ability to carve out time for quiet reflection. Most anxiety and even depression can be linked to the failure to create this personal space. You have within you the power to solve problems and overcome seemingly insurmountable obstacles. But often only if you give yourself the chance to reflect, unplug, and recharge. Be the force of nature you are capable of being, by creating space for calm.
Thursday March 16, 2017 #871
“To a dull mind all of nature is leaden. To the illumined mind the whole world burns and sparkles with light.”
~Ralph Waldo Emerson
It is always your choice to see things in a positive or a negative light. There are very few things that are truly without worth. Even the “ugly” has beauty within it if you choose to see it. Don’t go through life either seeing the bad in everything or maybe even worse, seeing nothing of any interest at all. Choose to seek the interesting, the beautiful, the surprising, in everyone and everything. Allow your mind to see the possibilities.
Tuesday March 14, 2017 #870
“Anxiety is nothing but fear inspired by an imagined future collapse. It is the failure of trust.”
It is true that most of the anxiety we feel is caused by our own distrust in ourselves and/or in others. Knowing this, how can you change your paradigm? Begin by “acting as if” you do have trust in yourself and you believe in others and in a positive future outcome. Yes, it is a bit of self-hypnosis but it has been proven over and over that those who not only convince themselves of positive outcomes, but also take actions to strengthen their skills and capabilities, significantly reduce their anxiety and build optimistic, positive outlooks. With that attitude, and strong skills, you can do almost anything!
Thursday March 9, 2017 #869
“Some people think it’s holding on that makes one strong – sometimes it’s letting go.”
There are times in this life when despite your best intentions and efforts, it will become clear that to continue to fight for success becomes futile and your best course is to move on. It could be a relationship, a job, or some other worthy project. It happens to all of us. The realization that you can continue, but to do so even with new efforts and strategies would not change the outcome or at least not your satisfaction with the outcome. The relationship, the job, or the project simply does not serve your personal or professional vision, or has become something that violates your values or character. If and when this occurs, and it is likely to occur at some point for everyone, your strength may be shown in letting go vs. holding on. Never act rashly, but with careful consideration make the choice that is true to your character. Hold on or let go. The choice is ours.
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