JAM with Mike

An Archive of Mike Osorio’s Jammin’ twice-weekly email service

Why me?

Thursday January 23, 2014 #596

 

“Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are good is like expecting a bull not to charge because you are a vegetarian.”

 

~Dennis Wholey

why me

 

When we or people close to us encounter hardships, we often respond with “Why me?” or “Why them?”  We’ve been good, careful, healthy, etc. etc.  Why did this happen to me?

The reality is that challenges, hardships, and even disasters are natural parts of our journey on the planet.  We cannot stop these from happening by being “good”, although we can certainly improve our odds!  Certainly continue doing all you can to live a good life, to learn all you can, to provide for others as well as yourself.  But when the eventual challenges occur, don’t be surprised. Accept the natural flow of life, learn from the experience, and use this wisdom to improve your chances of avoiding similar situations in the future.

January 25, 2014 Posted by | learning, Wisdom | , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

A Little Goodness

Tuesday January 21, 2014 #595

 

“Do all the good you can, by all the means you can, in all the ways you can, in all the places you can, at all the times you can, to all the people you can, as long as you ever can.”

 

~John Wesley

got-a-little-goodness

 

I think most of us want to be positive, giving, generous people all the time.  However, our very human nature can trip us up with our desires, greed, selfishness, worries, and jealousies.  The point and the goal is not to be perfect.  The point is to at least be “net positive” – to be a good person more than not.  And as we grow in our experience and wisdom, the goal should always be to improve the ratio of good to not so good.  How is your ratio today?  Try a little goodness right now.

January 25, 2014 Posted by | giving, Wisdom | , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Courage to Listen

Thursday January 16, 2014 #594

 

“Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.”

 

~Winston Churchill

leaders_listen

 

When I think about the characteristics of strong leaders I have worked with or for, one key element is the ability to know when to speak up and when to keep quiet and listen.  Average to poor leaders tend to favor one or the other, either blabbing to excess or else never standing up and speaking out when it is necessary.  The next time you are in a meeting or even a one on one meeting, be conscious of your own tendency.  Ideally, you will mostly listen but interject and/or speak up when your point of view is necessary to move something important forward, or to support a colleague.  Likely though, you will find you are talking too much or too little.  There is usually room to improve and to do so will make a positive difference to your effectiveness and to your career.

January 18, 2014 Posted by | courage, leadership, listening | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Strength, Courage, and Kindness

Tuesday January 14, 2014 #593

 

“Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust and hostility to evaporate.”

 

~Albert Schweitzer

kindness

 

So much of the pervasive issues of our time:  lack of trust, anger and hostilities, even wars, begin with individuals focused on petty grievances vs. an attitude of kindness and forgiveness.  Kindness is not weakness, but rather a courageous show of character strength despite differences and real or perceived slights.  It is often said that small acts of kindness can change the world.  Whether or not you believe this, I hope you can accept the potential for your kindnesses to make a difference in your own relationships.

 

Be strong.  Be courageous.  Be kind.

January 18, 2014 Posted by | courage | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Feeling Alive

Thursday January 9, 2014 #592

 

“We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.”

 

~Thornton Wilder

gratitude

 

As I reflect on the moments in which I have felt most alive, more filled with joy, and most happy, they are those moments in which I was most aware of the many blessings in my life.  My wife, my children, and my grandson by far top that list.  My extended family, closest friends and most valued work colleagues come next.  The opportunity to bring my best to work every day for a tremendous organization and live in an exciting foreign country rounds out my top 3.  The list goes on, but you get the idea. 

 

Rather than spend any more time focusing on what you don’t have, think about all you do have, reflect with gratitude and allow yourself to feel a bit more alive, joyful, and happy.

January 11, 2014 Posted by | Gratitude, Happiness | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Doing Good

Tuesday January 7, 2014 #591

 

“In the quiet hours when we are alone and there is nobody to tell us what fine fellows we are, we come sometimes upon a moment in which we wonder, not how much money we are earning, nor how famous we have become, but what good we are doing.”

 

~A.A. Milne

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As humans we tend to judge our worth (and we tend to judge others) on various forms of scorekeeping:  wealth, position, title, address, physical appearance, etc.  However, at some point we all find that the only true measure of our worth is what we give and the good we do for others.  Unfortunately, many don’t have this realization until their death bed or some tragedy or another.  Why wait for this realization to be forced upon you?  Rather, be a more intentional and positive force of good for your family, community and workplace.  Measure the success of each day not on what you’ve accomplished for yourself, but rather what you have accomplished for or given to others.

 

Perhaps counter-intuitively, focusing on others in fact delivers more intangible and tangible personal worth for you than if you focused merely on yourself.

January 11, 2014 Posted by | achievement, giving, intention, Success | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

2014: The Year Ahead

Thursday January 2, 2014 #590

 

“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”  

~Søren Kierkegaard

2014 - the year ahead

 

Welcome to 2014!  I am not one for New Year’s resolutions.  However, I do believe in taking time to reflect on last year’s achievements and failures to provide context for adjusting my areas of focus in the year ahead.  Like me, I am sure if you reflect on 2013 honestly, you will find much to be grateful for, achievements to celebrate, as well as failures to learn from.   

My challenge to myself and to you is to spend a bit of time to do a realistic reflection on 2013 and then focus on building upon another year of wisdom to enable an exciting and achievement-filled 2014.  Don’t dwell too much on the past but rather determine what can be learned from both the good and the challenging moments and then focus on moving forward with this knowledge.

 

I’m focused on making 2014 a foundational year for my and my family’s personal and professional next leap forward.  How about you?

January 5, 2014 Posted by | achievement, learning, Wisdom | , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Promise & Potential

Tuesday December 31, 2013 #589

 

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”

 

~Ralph Waldo Emerson

2014 - its up to you

 

Amazing to realize another year in our life journey is coming to an end.  And exciting to think about the year ahead and the people, experiences, and opportunities we will encounter.  As you consider how you will experience the 52 weeks ahead, remember to reflect on all your gifts and talents. 

 

This is the time to think of the power you hold to use all you have learned to this point to enable you to bring the best of yourself to all that comes to you in 2014.  Regardless of the challenges in your life, you have immense power to choose hope over despair, positivity over negative thoughts, and to surround yourself with positive and energizing people and experiences.

 

2014 is shaping up to be an amazing year, full of promise and potential for those who choose to make it so.

 

I hope to hear from you as you live your year intentionally and positively.  Happy New Year!

January 5, 2014 Posted by | intention, learning | , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment