JAM with Mike

An Archive of Mike Osorio’s Jammin’ twice-weekly email service

Self-Compassion

Thursday April 23, 2015 #719

“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.”

~Jack Kornfield

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Picking up on Tuesday’s guest post, a bit more on self-compassion:  So how well are you treating yourself today?  Take a moment and reflect on your talents and what you bring to your family, your community and your work associates every day.  Reminding yourself of these virtues is not self-indulgence.  It is a healthy counterbalance to your inner critic and will likely inspire you to bring even more of your best self to the present moment, enriching the people around you and brightening your own day.

May 9, 2015 Posted by | compassion, reflection | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Be Kind to Yourself

Tuesday April 21, 2015 #718

“I found in my research that the biggest reason people aren’t more self-compassionate is that they are afraid they’ll become self-indulgent.  They believe that self-criticism is what keeps them in line.  Most people have gotten in wrong because our culture says being hard on yourself is the way to be.” 

~Dr. Kristin Neff

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Today’s JAM is a guest post by JAMmer LB.  He provides an interesting insight into the need to be kind to ourselves as we navigate the challenges of life.

Indulgence is a virtue that goes well beyond the field of management. In a business world in quicker and constant change, managers and leaders are asked to take more risks and make quicker decisions, which can lead to more mistakes, and sometimes self-discontent or frustration. 

Indulgence towards others is a cardinal value, but indulgence towards oneself is a trait that high-demanding professionals may sometimes overlook. 

Failure is a component of success and every day is an opportunity to get better. Indulgence towards oneself is not about being complacent; it is just about applying life lessons with a bit more kindness.

May 9, 2015 Posted by | change, compassion, kindness | , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

The combination of brilliance and compassion

Tuesday July 24, 2012 #439

“A good head and a good heart are always a formidable combination.” 

~Nelson Mandela

The leaders we most admire tend to have this combination of brilliance and compassion.  I encourage you to consistently work on developing both characteristics in yourself.  Be an avid learner, a curious soul allows seeking to grow your knowledge and applying it in your personal and professional life.  Be also an avid advocate of people, showing gratitude and love for those around you.  The combination is truly formidable.

November 24, 2012 Posted by | compassion, Gratitude, leadership, learning | , , , , | Leave a comment

Try to remember compassion

Tuesday March 13, 2012 #402

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. That certainly includes me. And, I’m betting, you. Being compassionate will probably make us better, more effective people. If not, at least it will reduce the suffering that accompanies weakness. And it will most certainly make us nicer to each other and to ourselves.”

~Peter Bregman

Compassion is a critical skill we can all improve upon – compassion towards others and compassion towards ourselves.  Blaming ourselves and/or blaming others for challenges is always a zero-sum game.  Though it is difficult, I always try to assume people desire to do good (including me!).  I don’t always succeed, but when I find myself or others falling into the blame game or getting overly critical, I try to remember compassion.  Like any skill, mastering compassion takes practice.  Practice some compassion today.

April 29, 2012 Posted by | compassion | , | Leave a comment