JAM with Mike

An Archive of Mike Osorio’s Jammin’ twice-weekly email service

Wisdom From Experience

Tuesday August 11, 2015 #748

“Good judgment comes from experience, and experience – -well, that comes from poor judgment.”

~Cousin Woodman

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It is usual that the vast majority of our accumulated wisdom comes from having reflected upon, and learned from, the many times we have failed.  Most of our failures, of course, come from simple naiveté or careless errors of judgment, vs. fundamental weaknesses.  The point is to make the best judgments and decisions you can, with the information you can glean at that time, and keep moving.  The more you experience, and the more failures and ultimately successes you collect along the way, the more your judgment and wisdom grows, reducing the number of errors and building a sense of confidence and excitement for the challenges still to come.

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August 15, 2015 Posted by | Wisdom | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Wisdom From Foolishness

Thursday August 6, 2015 #747

“Our wisdom comes from our experience, and our experience comes from our foolishness.”

~Sacha Guitry

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When you think of the memorable experiences in your life, it is likely that most of them were preceded by what would seem now a “foolish” decision.  Approaching that gorgeous person (they said yes! – or not); asking for a raise from your boss during a challenging time (you got it! – or didn’t); going white water rafting (you survived! – with maybe a bruise or two); etc.  The point is that anything we consider an “experience” has some level of extreme pain or pleasure – and sometimes both!  But it is these experiences that have made us who we are, and have provided us with the wisdom we now use to help ourselves and others navigate life a bit better.  Stay foolish – keep pushing yourself to do those slightly (or very) crazy things that give life its spice and make us better humans.

August 15, 2015 Posted by | Wisdom | , , , , | Leave a comment

Stepping Stones to Success

Tuesday April 29, 2014 #622

“Failure is not the opposite of success, but a stepping stone to success.”  

~Arianna Huffington

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There are no easy paths to achieving worthy goals.  Any success worth achieving is going to be difficult.  Of course no one enjoys failing, and initial disappointment is natural.  The trick is to recognize these stumbles as an important part of the journey and allow yourself to learn from them, gaining the wisdom you will need to ultimately achieve your goals.

May 3, 2014 Posted by | achievement, Goal Setting, learning, Success, Wisdom | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Push Beyond Fear

Tuesday April 15, 2014 #618

 “You don’t learn to walk by following rules. You learn by doing, and by falling over.”

 ~Richard Branson

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 Just as the toddler only learns to walk by repeatedly trying, failing, and trying again until he succeeds, we only master life-changing skills and wisdom by trying before we are “ready”. Sure, you can learn the basics and philosophy of most things from Google or books. But to truly learn a skill, or gain wisdom, you must put yourself out there – and likely fail – before you can master it.

 Push beyond your fears and try. When (not if) you stumble, use it as the gift it is along your learning path. The alternative is to do nothing and remain mediocre at best. But that is not you! Make your move today.

April 19, 2014 Posted by | learning, Success, Wisdom | , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Reflection, acceptance, gratitude

Thursday March 27, 2014 #613

 “Do not let the future be held hostage by the past.”

 ~Neal A. Maxwell

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Every one of us has acted in ways we are not proud of. We have said and done things in moments of anger or sadness, or just through carelessness, that have hurt other people or ourselves. These situations cause us pain, guilt, and even shame as we berate ourselves for our transgressions. The real challenge is three-fold: First, reflection. We must reflect on these situations and allow both the feelings of regret, as well as learning from the event so as to not repeat it in the future. Second, acceptance. We have to get over it and forgive ourselves. It does us know good to keep dwelling on past mistakes if we have accomplished the first challenge of real reflection. Finally, gratitude. The third step is to use the wisdom gained from our personal experience to guide ourselves and offer counsel to others who are still struggling with the challenges of reflection and acceptance. We couldn’t do this without the experience, so gratitude is the final step.

Reflection, acceptance, gratitude. Be up to these three challenges, and never let your future be held hostage by your past.

March 29, 2014 Posted by | Forgiveness, Gratitude, learning, Wisdom | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

The Power of our Thoughts

Tuesday March 25, 2014 #612

“A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes.”

 ~Mahatma Gandhi

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It is a well-known and provocative idea, that we become the person we believe ourselves to be in our deepest thoughts. I do believe that our perception of ourselves is fully dependent on what we think and believe to be true. Those thoughts are heavily influenced by the people we choose to surround ourselves with (and those we don’t choose, e.g. childhood family), what we choose to read and watch and learn. These thoughts then lead to the choices we make spiritually, socially, and professionally. Except for the family you were born into, virtually all other factors of your life are the result of the choices you have made.

So the question then is simply, are you happy and engaged with the person you have chosen to be? If not, you have the power to choose today any of a number of actions to propel you toward redefining yourself and it begins with a single thought – to define yourself in a new and better way. Thoughts alone, of course only provide the dream. Actions take you there. But without the dream, actions create movement but not necessarily to a truly desired outcome. Think well, act wisely.

March 29, 2014 Posted by | Belief, Happiness, intention, Take Action, Wisdom | , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Why me?

Thursday January 23, 2014 #596

 

“Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are good is like expecting a bull not to charge because you are a vegetarian.”

 

~Dennis Wholey

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When we or people close to us encounter hardships, we often respond with “Why me?” or “Why them?”  We’ve been good, careful, healthy, etc. etc.  Why did this happen to me?

The reality is that challenges, hardships, and even disasters are natural parts of our journey on the planet.  We cannot stop these from happening by being “good”, although we can certainly improve our odds!  Certainly continue doing all you can to live a good life, to learn all you can, to provide for others as well as yourself.  But when the eventual challenges occur, don’t be surprised. Accept the natural flow of life, learn from the experience, and use this wisdom to improve your chances of avoiding similar situations in the future.

January 25, 2014 Posted by | learning, Wisdom | , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

A Little Goodness

Tuesday January 21, 2014 #595

 

“Do all the good you can, by all the means you can, in all the ways you can, in all the places you can, at all the times you can, to all the people you can, as long as you ever can.”

 

~John Wesley

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I think most of us want to be positive, giving, generous people all the time.  However, our very human nature can trip us up with our desires, greed, selfishness, worries, and jealousies.  The point and the goal is not to be perfect.  The point is to at least be “net positive” – to be a good person more than not.  And as we grow in our experience and wisdom, the goal should always be to improve the ratio of good to not so good.  How is your ratio today?  Try a little goodness right now.

January 25, 2014 Posted by | giving, Wisdom | , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

2014: The Year Ahead

Thursday January 2, 2014 #590

 

“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”  

~Søren Kierkegaard

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Welcome to 2014!  I am not one for New Year’s resolutions.  However, I do believe in taking time to reflect on last year’s achievements and failures to provide context for adjusting my areas of focus in the year ahead.  Like me, I am sure if you reflect on 2013 honestly, you will find much to be grateful for, achievements to celebrate, as well as failures to learn from.   

My challenge to myself and to you is to spend a bit of time to do a realistic reflection on 2013 and then focus on building upon another year of wisdom to enable an exciting and achievement-filled 2014.  Don’t dwell too much on the past but rather determine what can be learned from both the good and the challenging moments and then focus on moving forward with this knowledge.

 

I’m focused on making 2014 a foundational year for my and my family’s personal and professional next leap forward.  How about you?

January 5, 2014 Posted by | achievement, learning, Wisdom | , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Just to be Alive

Tuesday October 15, 2013 #567

 

I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable … but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a great thing.

 

~Agatha Christie

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Today is the one year anniversary of my father’s passing. He used to share quotes with me regularly and this was one that I thought quite poignant as I reflect upon his life.  He went through many challenges, as we all do, but always tried (not always successfully) to stay focused on his blessings and being grateful for living.

 

As you and I go through life and experience the many unavoidable physical and emotional challenges, we can try to remember all that is good in our life, all the amazing talents, relationships, and possessions we have.  It just might get us through these challenges a little faster, with a little less pain and a little more positivity.  If we can do this, I know my dad would be proud.

October 19, 2013 Posted by | Gratitude, Perspective, Wisdom | , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment