JAM with Mike

An Archive of Mike Osorio’s Jammin’ twice-weekly email service

Ask for Help

Thursday April 27, 2017 #883

“Don’t be ashamed to need help. Like a soldier storming a wall, you have a mission to accomplish. And if you’ve been wounded and you need a comrade to pull you up? So what?”

~Marcus Aurelius

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There really is nothing worth accomplishing that you will ever do fully on your own.  Even the most minor achievements have others to thank for their contributions.  Yes, you have to use what you are given but you didn’t emerge from the womb with the talents and tools you have today.  From your parents, teachers and coaches in your formative years, to your colleagues, experiences, bosses and subordinates, all of these have contributed to who you are today.

So when you find yourself struggling in the moment or in larger ways, why would you not ask for help?  Reflect for a moment on where you are struggling today, or what you are worried about dealing with in the days ahead.  Who do you know who has a skill or a tool that you could use to get you through the identified challenge?  Pick up the phone, call them, let them know what you are dealing with and respectfully ask for their assistance.

Most people love to be called upon to help others.  Don’t you?  So you can be fairly confident that the person you call will not only be willing to help you, they will be grateful for the opportunity.  What are you waiting for?  Call.

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Start!

Tuesday April 25, 2017 #882

“The one thing all famous authors, world class athletes, business tycoons, singers, actors, and celebrated achievers in any field have in common is that they all began their journeys when they were none of these things.”

~Mike Dooley

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The instant access to examples of “perfection” on the intranet are both a benefit and a curse as we try to become the best at whatever we are trying:  sports, music, leadership, investing, personal fitness and attractiveness, etc.  While these examples are great to give us ideas on how to pursue exemplary performance ourselves, this unfortunately often serves as a reminder of just how far we are from our dreams of perfection.  Often this creates discouragement and leads to giving up.  Don’t give up!

The key is to have perspective.  None of these “perfect” examples started that way. They began as amateurs, just like you and me.  And only through hard work, drive and persistence did they reach the level of success they now enjoy.  Don’t get discouraged by the gap between what you see and your own level of performance.  Instead, use their personal stories of rising from amateur to exceptional performance to light your own path to your potential.  And, START!

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Fear of Failure

Tuesday April 18, 2017 #880

It was my fear of failure that first kept me from attempting my master work. Now, I’m beginning what I could have started ten years ago. But I’m happy at least that I didn’t wait twenty years.”

~Paulo Coelho

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Many choose a career and then find at some point that their chosen field is not enabling them to use their talents to reach their potential.  It could be that the work is not a match for your talents or passions.  Or that you have developed new interests and skills that could be better applied in a different arena.  However, most choose to remain in a career that has become uninspiring and in which they are not fulfilling their potential due to fear of change.  A sure paycheck in an uninspiring career often is deemed a lesser evil than the unknowns of shifting careers.

I encourage you to be thoughtful and reflect carefully on whether you can reset your perspective and find fulfillment in your current career.  If not, it may be time to face your fears of the unknown and research how you can make a move that puts you in motion to a better career choice.  You spend most of your waking hours at work.  You have the choice on whether those hours are inspiring or drudgery.  Choose inspiration and the risk of change will be rewarded.

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Kill the Snake

Thursday April 13, 2017 #879

“If you see a snake, just kill it. Don’t appoint a committee on snakes.”

 ~Henry Ross Perot

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The current popularity of “collaboration” and “transparency” can have unintended negative consequences as leaders overcompensate by making even obvious decisions subject to discussion, committees and task forces, and need for consensus.  The key to effective and speedy decision making is ensuring everyone knows the mission and core beliefs of the organization; you have defined delegated authority, and created a safe environment for mistakes made that adhere to these factors.  In this kind of organization, when the front line person sees the “snake”, they will kill it without asking.  If not, the snake will continue to roam free and cause damage while the organization forms task forces and seeks consensus.  Just kill the snake.

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Discipline vs. Regret

Tuesday April 11, 2017 #878

“Everyone must choose one of TWO PAINS: The pain of discipline or the pain of regret.”

~Jim Rohn

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Most if not all meaningful goals are challenging to achieve.  There are skills to learn or master, obstacles to overcome, and constantly changing environmental factors to deal with.  When we fail to achieve these goals, we usually have ourselves largely to blame either through lack of true desire or lack of discipline to deal with and overcome the challenges.  Don’t live a life of regret for what could have been.  Push yourself to have the discipline necessary to achieve the goals you truly desire to achieve.  The pleasure of achievement will make today’s pain worthwhile.

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The Color of Your Soul

Thursday April 6, 2017 #877

“Your mind will be like its habitual thoughts; for the soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts.  Soak it then in such trains of thoughts as, for example: Where life is possible at all, a right life is possible.”

~Marcus Aurelius

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We are all ridiculously busy these days.  But, in those moments between your busy activities, what do you think about?  How do you spend that precious time with yourself or your loved ones?  Too often, that time is spent in negative thoughts, with negative people, or in activities that are negative or unhealthy. This can be unintentional, just a reality of the inputs around us.  Or sadly, we can often choose these experiences ourselves.  To avoid this, we must be intentional and be ready to reach for a positive experience with a person or with ourselves.

How are you spending your few opportunities to refresh and rejuvenate yourself positively?  With intention I hope.  If not, make it your priority to find ways to fill today’s opportunities wisely and positively.  You’ll be glad you did.

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Do It Now

Tuesday April 4, 2017 #876

“The critical ingredient is getting off your butt and doing something. It’s as simple as that. A lot of people have ideas, but there are few who decide to do something about them now. Not tomorrow. Not next week. But today, the true entrepreneur is a doer, not a dreamer.”

~Nolan Bushnell

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There is something that you know you need to do.  A project to start, or a project to finish; a change to make in your career, relationship, or way of living; a stand you need to make.  Why aren’t you doing it?  The likely culprits include self-doubt, societal pressure, fear of failure (or of success!), nay-sayers, and more.  What to do?  Act anyway.  Despite the fears, despite the obstacles, despite the expected recriminations or potential failures.  Do it today.  Do it now.  ACT.  Be a doer, not a dreamer.

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Patience

Thursday March 30, 2017 #875

“You don’t win an Olympic gold medal with a few weeks of intensive training.  There’s no such thing as an overnight opera sensation. Great law firms or design companies don’t spring up overnight… Every great company, every great brand, and every great career has been built in exactly the same way: bit by bit, step by step, little by little.”

~Seth Godin

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Patience.  One of the most important capabilities needed for success.is the patience to allow our talents and opportunities to come together to create potential.  Patience to create and develop relationships. Patience to learn tools and capabilities and time to put them into practice.  Patience with ourselves as we make mistakes and learn from them.  Patience with others as they play their roles in our lives to help and sometimes hinder our progress.  The road may seem long and that is because it is.  Have the patience to travel that road and enjoy the moments along the way.  Bit by bit, step by step, little by little.

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Giving Generousl

Tuesday March 28 2017 #874

“You can’t live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you.”

~John Wooden

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Too often people only do things for others when they feel they are getting something material out of their effort.  If not, this selfishness can cause people to refrain from taking the effort to help others.  But the best experience we can have is giving of ourselves with no thought of getting anything in return.  We all have so much we can offer of ourselves:  our time, our talents, our money, and our access to resources.  Keep your senses open to opportunities to give generously.  Selfless giving is the most beneficial thing you can do for others and for yourself.  Have a perfect day today!

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Failing Forward

Thursday March 23, 2017 #873

“You will fail at some point in your life. Accept it. You will lose. You will embarrass yourself. You will suck at something. There is no doubt about it. … Never be discouraged. Never hold back. Give everything you’ve got. And when you fall throughout life — and maybe even tonight after a few too many glasses of champagne — fall forward.”

~Denzel Washington

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This is a message I have written about several times and it is a message worth repeating:  You. Will. Fail.  When you fail, you can’t let the failure define you or defeat you.  Everyone fails.  But not everyone succeeds.  Success comes from failing forward.  Certainly allowing yourself to feel the negative emotions that come with failure, but then quickly moving to positive action. Reflecting on what occurred, what could have been done differently, what resources you would have needed, what you must change about yourself, etc.  And then take action!  Learn new skills, develop new relationships and resources, try a different angle.  If it is worth winning, failure is just another piece of the learning you need to be able to win eventually.

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