Tuesday April 15, 2014 #618
“You don’t learn to walk by following rules. You learn by doing, and by falling over.”
Just as the toddler only learns to walk by repeatedly trying, failing, and trying again until he succeeds, we only master life-changing skills and wisdom by trying before we are “ready”. Sure, you can learn the basics and philosophy of most things from Google or books. But to truly learn a skill, or gain wisdom, you must put yourself out there – and likely fail – before you can master it.
Push beyond your fears and try. When (not if) you stumble, use it as the gift it is along your learning path. The alternative is to do nothing and remain mediocre at best. But that is not you! Make your move today.
Thursday April 10, 2014 #617
“Take chances, make mistakes. That’s how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.”
~Mary Tyler Moore
Both effective leadership and personal growth require the courage to move forward and take risks, despite the chances of failure and pain. Fear can be debilitating or it can be a powerful motivator to practice courage and bravery. Courage is not the absence of fear; it is the ability to push through despite fear, leveraging the fear to motivate you and stimulate innovative solutions.
Tuesday April 8, 2014 #616
“The nature of creativity is to make space for things to happen… We can drive it out with our busyness and plans.”
If you are like most, you allow the busyness of life to remove almost all moments of quiet reflection, time to think, develop new ideas, dream of possibilities, and to create. Everyone possesses the power of creativity and innovation. But few give themselves the time or even the permission to do so. Don’t deprive yourself or the world your potential and abilities. Allow yourself a bit of time to free the creativity within you.
Thursday April 3, 2014 #615
“If we only wanted to be happy, this would soon be done. But we want to be happier than others and that is almost always difficult, because we see them happier than they actually are.”
~Charles de Montesquieu
The path to sustainable joy and moments of intense happiness stem from our ability to realize with gratitude all that we are fortunate to have in this life. Unfortunately, our human tendency is to compare ourselves and what we have with others – particularly our perception of others’ happiness. Too often our lens is one of scarcity rather than abundance and we subconsciously or even consciously covet others’ possessions, relationships, and perceived happiness. We must fight this human tendency by consciously recognizing our own gifts and realizing everyone has their own challenges and limitations. Focus less on comparisons and more on gratitude. Decide to be happy and you’ll likely find your way there.
Tuesday April 1, 2014 #614
“There are some things you learn best in calm, and some in storm.”
All experiences in life are opportunities for learning if we pay attention in the moment. Sometimes life will give you stretches of relative ease, with many things coming easily and with little effort. Other times life will seem cruel as you face significant challenges and nothing seems to go your way. In both situations, there is much to learn and if you are able to pause and reflect on both the situation and your reaction to it and to those around you. Whatever the lesson, take it in and grow your ability to appreciate moments of calm and build your courage and capabilities during difficult times.
Thursday March 27, 2014 #613
“Do not let the future be held hostage by the past.”
~Neal A. Maxwell
Every one of us has acted in ways we are not proud of. We have said and done things in moments of anger or sadness, or just through carelessness, that have hurt other people or ourselves. These situations cause us pain, guilt, and even shame as we berate ourselves for our transgressions. The real challenge is three-fold: First, reflection. We must reflect on these situations and allow both the feelings of regret, as well as learning from the event so as to not repeat it in the future. Second, acceptance. We have to get over it and forgive ourselves. It does us know good to keep dwelling on past mistakes if we have accomplished the first challenge of real reflection. Finally, gratitude. The third step is to use the wisdom gained from our personal experience to guide ourselves and offer counsel to others who are still struggling with the challenges of reflection and acceptance. We couldn’t do this without the experience, so gratitude is the final step.
Reflection, acceptance, gratitude. Be up to these three challenges, and never let your future be held hostage by your past.
Thursday March 20, 2014 #611
“A good leader takes a little more than his share of the blame, and a little less than his share of the credit.”
~Arnold H. Glasow
A strong leader is a combination of strong ego and humility. To get to a position of authority, one must have the courage of their convictions, be able to project confidence and capability, and have a healthy belief in their abilities. This can come across as being ego-centric and many a leader is criticized for actions and words that seem to indicate it is “all about them”. It is a natural consequence for a strong leader, and therefore must be balanced with intentional humility. The reality is that ongoing success for any leader is dependent upon the engagement and superior efforts of those they lead. All good leaders know this and nurture their people. The point though is that the leader must be quite intentional about their words and actions so that their followers know their leader will shoulder the blame for challenges, and give credit to their team for successes.
I have had my own challenges in effectively expressing my gratitude for the efforts of others, and suspect you may face this challenge from time to time yourself. Let’s all remember to be intentional on expressing well our gratitude for all those who create the achievements for the teams we are honored to lead or in which we participate.
Tuesday March 18, 2014 #610
“Life can either be accepted or changed. If it is not accepted, it must be changed. If it cannot be changed, then it must be accepted.”
I don’t know about you, but listening to close friends and family members complain about their situation without any effort to change it (or accept it and move on) is exhausting and frustrating. I specifically mention close friends and family because for anyone else, I can just ignore it and move on myself. I can and do make that choice. But for people I truly care about, I am invested by choice in their lives and want them to experience joy and happiness. I know for myself that when I find myself wallowing in anger, self-pity, or sadness it is time to choose. I can accept or change. Change my perspective, or take action to change a situation or help someone else change theirs. If change is not possible, I can choose to accept.
So, back to others who complain yet take no action to accept or make changes. I choose this: I will accept others for how they are feeling, help when help is desired (and not when it isn’t), and focus on taking actions that keep me moving forward. In this way I focus on what I can control (myself) and lower my frustration about others’ attitudes.
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